Dear Emily
I am 21 and have been married for 6 months. I am happy and I love my husband which also is 21. However, I was with alot of guys before I got married and I now realize that I need lots of cock. I want to have an open married so I can fuck lots of hot guys. Not only that but I want to be a slut wife for my husband. How do I let him no my slutty desires without him having "traditional" thinking.
Kayla
You don't know how long I've been waiting for this question. It's about time us gals took the Bull by the tool! :) Well this isn't a lot of information to go on but I'll do my best. I've always found the best way is to make him think it's his idea. When you say "Slut Wife" I'm guessing you mean Black guys and you're white. So... watch a football, basketball game, LL Cool J movie, just about anything. Make some comments about "the rumors." That night when you're fucking tell him how hard he is, and how turned on he seems to be and ask if it's because of what you were talking about. Get him into it then. Then let it drop. A couple of days later, tell him how you've thought it over, and you're going to do it for him (fuck a black guy in front of him.) If he tries to back out, tell him you know it's what he wants and you're willing to do it for him because you love him so much. Don't take no for an answer! He might be nervous but make sure he knows you're doing this FOR HIM! The rest should take care of itself. Get back to me with any more questions or the results! Good Luck!
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My wife and I have been living the cuckold lifestyle for the past three years. In that time she has had 7 or 8 black lovers. She video tapes the encounters and gives them to me and I love watching them. The tapes are hot but i'd really like to be there in the room with them and witness the whole thing live. My wife always says her lovers are not cool with my being there so I don't push the issue. I just sit back and enjoy the tapes and our sex life has been great but recently I talked to one of her lovers online and he said that he was OK with me coming and when I told my wife she still refused and said that it wouldn't be the same for her if I was there. I really want to be there but the tapes are great too. How can I get her to let me come with her just once. Thanks
Honestly dude, I don't think it's going to happen. I'm sure she has many reasons, possible guilt with you there, unable to relax, you interrupting, who knows. But she doesn't want you there and you need to enjoy what you've got. What you might try to do is ask her kindly and without pressure if you can just be there once, maybe as a birthday present. If it happens, be grateful and keep your mouth shut about it happening again. If she doesn't feel pressured maybe she'll do it again for your anniversary or Christmas. Who knows, but learn to enjoy what you've got, it's a lot more than many. And speaking of which, why don't you send in some of those video clips to Mojo and let the rest of us in on the action. Share the wealth homey... :)
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My girlfriend and I have done the hotwife scene just a couple of times and want to do it more often. Here is the problem, Her body is rejecting birth control, It causes her problems off and on all month. So she quit taking it. She is doing just fine now. But here is our problem. We don't want her getting pregnant. She also loves it bareback, but is willing to give that up. My question is, would condoms and pulling out before cumming be safe enough to prevent her from getting pregnant? Any advice would be helpful. Its too bad that she will miss out on some of the things she enjoys. Like bareback, and having a cum filled pussy. She loves getting real slutty for her men. Thanks!
First off, what are you doing for her? Have you thought of getting a vasctomy? It might be a nice jesture. Second, you should always practice safe sex regardless unless you know the people extremely well. Picking people up off the Internet, in bars, where ever is fraught with danger and you need to protect yourself (wife). If someone says they won't fuck with a condom, kick them to the curb. Simple as that. Yes bareback is best, but health is better! As far as your question goes, a condom and facials should keep the risk of pregnacy down to a minimum, and after wards you can fill her pussy with cum like she likes it. She can still be extremely slutty and be safe at the same time. I know I can... :)
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HOW DO I GET MY WIFE INTO THE BBC, WERE BOTH WHITE AND 33
A little more info would be nice, why don't you join Slut Wife Finder and try your luck there? That's about all I can advise on one line.
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My wife is a very sexy lady. I am 52. She is 48 and still looks great! When we first met I told her in no uncertain terms that she had my unconditional permission to play if she ever felt the need or desire. All I asked of her was honesty between us. Now, most men would not even consider this or even think of saying such a thing to thier woman. However, I am very uninhibited and maybe just a little more oversexed than most. My greatest desire is to witness my wife become an unihibited sexualy liberated woman. I want so much for her to live her fantasies before we are both too old to even think about sex.
Can you help me understand how I might break down the barriers she has built up around her sexualy? What steps should I take to unleash the slut I see inside her just dying to get out? In the past she has done some incredibly eroyic and risque things and then regretted them to the point of shutting down sexualy. Ashamed I assume. But, on a trip tp Tampa for business I know she enjoyed having a man up to her room for a romp. Although she denies it vehemntly, i have the proof but will not press it because I am hopefull such behavior will repeat itself with me there the next time. If of course the situation was just right.
I want to join a swingers club in our area that meets twice a month at a private club for dancing and partying. I certainly do not want her to think I am forcing her to do anything but, I do want to introduce her to the lifestyle regardless of whether she plays or not. I would love it if she did embrace it, but if all she got out of it was an eye opening I would be happy. What should I do to help her open up and enjoy herself? Should I try to introduce her to the lifestyle? I want to unleash the passion and sexual desire bubling under the surface that I see held so fervently back.
There is a bigger issue at play here. First off, read what you wrote. Notice anything? No? Read it again. Notice it now? There is no "I" in we. I'm guess here, that this is how your are coming across to her. And of course she is reluctant. Because when does "I" become, "I" want to fuck someone else, "I" want to have a threesome, "I" want a divorce. You need to change all that. Start with we and go from there. Good Luck!
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i am a white man 38yo in great shape married to a hot BBW with 40DD and a sexy ass she loves sex and giving head we have done 3somes befor but only with white guys im str8 but love to see her getting fucked how do i get her to go black? i have asked her to try it now for about 4yrs
Well clearly there is nothing you can do or it would have happened already. So you're going to have to look outside yourself. Maybe she has racial issues, or maybe it's in her upbringing. Do you associate much around Black men? If not I would suggest exposing her to more Black males. Sports bars, jazz clubs, etc. Do you ride a motorcycle? There are an increasing number of Black sports bike clubs, maybe find out where they hang and just drop by. Good Luck!
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Slut Emily, you are such a clever girl!
Thanks!
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Emily I hope u can help,
U ahve a movie on here called Sexretary - I believe someone I no is in a similar situation. We belonged 2 the camping club years ago and I know this isn't who she is. I want 2help but I don't really know how. I thought of kidnapping her but that's pretty gay. What should I do?
Local Chapter President of the Save a Stripper Club? Listen, no one can be saved unless they want to be. Look at Britney Spears. On the other hand, sometimes people wind up in situations that they didn't see coming or didn't think would last. (like writing an advice column for a Slut Wife site 8 years later) That being said, I don't think you should contact her. If this is true you don't want her to feel pressured. If you have a mutual female friend have her reach out. Nothing heavy, just let her know she is there and see what happens. Also, you're really going to have to think this one through, because if this is true you're going to have to let her past go if she contacts you. From her perspective there is no difference between kicked in the teeth by a muddy boot and a Gucci loafer. Being kicked in the teeth is being kicked in the teeth. And if you get used to one, at least you know what's coming. So have a female you both know reach out to her. If she responds take it from there. If not, let it go dude. There are plenty of strippers you can spend your whole life trying to save and maybe even get laid in the process. LOL Good Luck!
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72 years old fucking my wife (65) only ounce a week and always in the one major hole (she just don’t like in the ass and not as well in the mouth since I have a very abundant precum. Bad luck for me! We are married only since 8 years (my second, her third marriage). She had many many affairs during and between her marriages but since we know each other she is on monogamy. But, I would be so pleased that she would fuck around and she knows that, even having the possibility to do so. She looks still very attractive, sees regularly some men I know they would like to fuck her but she stays to my distress hard on platonic relationships. What shall I do?? I thought about not to fuck her a while do get her sex hungry, but then she will probably use her dildo more often. What else can I do? Please help!
Many regards
Robert out of Switzerland
Hi Robert!
I'm just guessing, but at that age she probably knows exactly what she wants, and that seems to be you and monogamy. My best guess is to be open and honest with her and let her know why it's important to you to see her with other men. Not just "it would turn me on" but reasons deeper than that. And denying her sex or treating her badly isn't going to win you any battles. Just be kind, open and honest. Like I tell everyone, that's your best bet. Good Luck!
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Emily,
This is a little different even for you. There is this girl, and I think about her often. And have for a very long time. We had a relationship a few years ago and things went horribly wrong. I don't think either one of us were ready for it, and we didn't understand the impact that it would have on both of our lives. I really want to see her and talk about things. I don't think things are working out very well for either one of us being apart, and I know it would be difficult because we both have changed since then, but I'm willing to try. The other issue is her friends will never accept me, and actually were one of the main reasons things went wrong. Any clues?
Honestly, no. If she has any of the same feelings as you, she is just going to have to realize you can't run from your heart, - that's a race you'll never win. And all the outside influences, aren't going to be a lasting substitute. Look at the "stars" that have everything one would image and how sad their lives are. Drugs, rehab, suicide attempts, etc. It's always easy to say shit like move on, put it behind you, and all that bullshit. But sometimes that just isn't the solution and you need to finish what you started. It takes two too tango and you both got yourselves into this, and it's going to take you both to get yourselves out of it sounds like. Good Luck!
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Hello Slut Emily,
I just want to tell you and Mojo how much my life has changed after viewing this site. I've always had submissive thoughts and fantasies. I thought I was all alone, but now I see that I'm not. I want moare than anything to be dominated and controlled by a hot girl. I mean not really pretty but you know... How do I find a girl like this? For the right girl it would just be game on!!! Do girls know when they meat a guy that he's submissive? Please help Slut Emily, and tell Mojo I like Apple products also! ;)
Andy
Andy, I'm glad the site has been beneficial to you. But really all the credit goes to Mojo. I just don't know how he does it! But back to you. A girl can get a general feeling about someone yes. And as time goes on that only increases. However, this is a slippery slope because guys like you are susceptible to very manipulative females that will just use you to get what they want with no intention of ever "giving back" to you. But maybe that's ok with you. You'll have to decide for yourself. Personally I am attracted to a guy that won't put up with any thing I might pull. I guess it's like the old saying, "what's the difference between a boy and a man? Bullshit. It's all boy knows and a man won't tolerate it." You might also sign up for the new Slut Wife Finder site (see the banner up top?)
Good Luck Andy!
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I'm a black male married to a great lady who is white. We got married and traveled off to Las Vegas for a week and a half of fun. The 2nd night we were there we decided its time to consumate this marriage. Now instead of my wife being treated to a big blk 10 inch-like cock, I sport a 4 incher at full erection. Needless to say , my wife looked up at me and gave me that, "damn wheres the rest of it?", look. Im one of those black guys who are not well hung. My wife always a postiive person gets back down on her knees to suck my cock. The only thing was , not 3 min into it , my wife pulls her lips off my cock to say something when i had my orgasm. Cum was flying out my cock like a faucet. My wife looks up at me, and i said sorry. She smiled, saying it was ok, that we have plenty of time to get it on. That was embarrassing!!!
The next day we took a bus tour to the grand canyon, meeting another couple on the way. Derrick who is black and his gf Marcy who is white. We hit it off great with them. Derrick stated that he's been to Vegas several times. We we decided we were gonna hang out together and let Derrick show us the sights without the visitors guidebook. For the next 3 days Derrick took us everywhere and back. The 3 rd night were got all dressed up and went to a show then went to the slots at the MGM Grand. We drank soo much liquor the bill was $320 , but Marcy paid the bill. She won $5500 at the slot she was at. My wife suggested that we go up to our honeymoon suite to celebrate, so we all headed up there. Me and Marcy had the most to drink , and by the time we got to the suite i had to sit down. my wife goes over to turn the radio on, while derrick closed the door behind him, outting the "do not disturb" sign on the door . marcy is drunk and throws the money around , spreading it all over the floor. she starts dancing with march and my wife walks over to them gyrating her hips against derrick. Now by this time i was drunk and half out of it. Then i passed out. Im not sure how much time had passed but before i opened my eyes, i heard a woman going, "oohhhhh shittttt derrick", and slapping sounds. I open my eyes and there derrick on the bed with my wife vicky , pounding a large black cock deep into my wife. I looked over to my right and there was marcy naked on the couch passed out. At this point the alcohol was still affecting me, but i was staring with my jaw wide open. I didnt even consumate the marriage with my own wife and there derrick was taking my place. instead of being mad or jealous , i actually was in awe of derrick. I mean all the alcohol he drank and he still had the endurance and stamina to fuck marcy , wearing her out and now deep-dicking my wife. I. i went back to sleep and didnt wake up until about 9 am the next morning. i was still on the couch naked this time, which i dont know how that happened, my wife was on the bed naked. she woke up and said she was sorry for fucking another man, but i think deep down she loved the hell out of it. I told her it was ok, that we got drunk and things got crazy, but as long as she had fun then it was ok. she told me, "well i guess what happens in vegas stays in vegas.
After we got back form Vegas , things were pretty much normal , except for our sex life. We used more toys, dildos , vibrators, adult films. I used my tongue moreso on my wife than my cock. One day I went off to work telling my wife that after work I would be going out of town on business, coming back in a few days. While at work my boss announced that the trip was off, for reasons unknown. So after work , I got some red roses for my wife and drove on home. Getting to the house their was a bright red Mercedes parked in the drive way. Not knowing who the car belonged to , I took my keys and entered the house. All I heard walking in were music playing upstairs and moaning. I walked up the stairs and in the master bedroom was this Italian guy on top of my wife fucking her like a jackhammer. The guy was hung like a Shetland pony had a small box of durex xxl condoms on the nightstand.
My question is , how can I compete? I cant outdo him in the cock dept , is their any other way?
Better and Mercedes than a Pinto. But seriously you have already "outdone" him becuase she married you. She has made a commitment to you and is only just fucking him. What you need to do is open honest and direct communication with her, let her know you are there for her and understand her needs, Then have her engage you in her "activities" so you both can share that as well. Because now, her life is part of your life and vice versa. Good Luck!
UPDATE: Hello Emily, here is what happened after talking to my wife. She said she felt I may have realized what was going on. Our sex life has been much different after the honeymoon in Vegas. She said she loves me and that what shes doing with Giovanni is just a sex thing. Giovanni is the Italian I found fucking my wife in our marriage bed. My wife made sure she corrected me on one thing, Giovanni doesn’t have a 10 inch cock, hes actually 11 inches. Geez, talk about comparing a Mercedes to a Pinto J It feels a bit odd being a black guy , married to a white lady who is having fun with her Italian stallion. I guess some would think I would be the one with the horse cock doing the white ladies. However it is erotic , and we do love each other.
When then you've discovered "the secret." Loving and accepting each other for who and what you are is the key to happiness. I wish more people on this planet could figure that out. Keep in touch with me, thanks for writing back and Good Luck!
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Dear Emily,
You suggested the husband was likely correct to doubt his wife's disposition after he made a stink of it the first time...,
Why not say, "Honey, I am sorry I made such a stink about your lover the first time, I think I have grown now, and I want you to know that your happiness is THE most important thing to me..."
Open her up to the idea once again...?
Am I wrong?
I'm not sure what this is referencing. My opinions are simply that.
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At the risk of sounding stupid or very naive.. Please answer a couple questions! After many faithful years on her part..Not mine i admit... She came out of shyness and did my best friend...Three times! She never wore any make-up ever or dressed up..Esp heels in 20 years..Even once! No make up, perfume, the entire boring 9 yards.Then i noticed as she went on her first "ladies night out (after 19 years of marriage), she wore a bright sexy lipstick, perfume, 5" high heels, no undies! She doesn't ever drink but came home bombed with her lipstick smudged badly, cum stains on her bra...And she was still leaking my friends cum out of her? She admits she now loves b.J's, from behind sex, taping sexual sessions, & wants me to "clean her up " when she gets home. I think i want too..I'm confused. I did partially the other nite and was excited..Immensly. Did i create a slut or was she longing for that role? (She enloys being called my slut?)! Bill
Women like to be challenged. Something about your friend challenged her and she stepped up and explored her limits. If I were you, I'd thank my lucky stars, and embrace that fact that you have what millions can only dream of and probably will never have.
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My wife and I have been married about 14 years; early in our relationship she was aware of my interest in sharing her with other men. Apprehensive but interested, she agreed to meet some people to see were it went and over time with much encouragement and my support, we found the right guy to play with in a MFM threesome. This arrangement worked fine for us over the last 5 or six years and involved a total of 4 different men and a couple. It was the kind of thing we did maybe twice or three times a year. I didn't push the issue, although I would have preferred to do it more regularly.
About two years ago she told me she didn'twant to participate any more, saying "it doesn‚t do anything for me" although I was very disappointed, again I didn't push it, and tried to understand. My problem is this, over this time; I have developed feelings of resentment and betrayal towards my wife. Our sex life is practically non existent, I know she is frustrated but I feel I can‚t talk with her about this. I believe I have been a devoted husband in our marriage; there isn‚t anything I wouldn‚t do, or have not done, to make my wife happy, from new cars to vacations, to even a vasectomy. (so she could come off the pill)
I can‚t help but feel, that after all this time of being upfront with my interests and her agreeing and participating with me, she suddenly pulled the plug on an activity she knows gives me great pleasure, but I know gives her physical pleasure as well... (she had multiple organisms and was very receptive to the other men) In addition, our adventures always resulted in heightened sexual activity between us that lasted for weeks at a time.
Other than this issue, I guess you could say we are happy and do everything together, but I‚m sad that we can‚t share this "special hobby" together as we used to anymore. Any suggestions would be helpful.
A depressed husband
Oh man, I come back and this is the first thing I get? Why me??? Although I'm not a "qualified" professionally, it seems pretty obvious that your marriage is for all intents over. Both of you probably harbor deep feelings of resentment for each other. And although you still remain friends on some level, (after all 14 years is along time) the love has gone, and in my opinion so is the marriage. Get to a marriage counselor and see what they have to say, but personally I think (unless kids are involved) it's just best to move on. Sorry, I just don't see it any other way. Good luck with whatever outcome.
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Dear Slut Emily
I am fascinated by cuckolding and the whole act of it etc. Recently my friends wife left him and is living with another guy. My question is at what point did she cuckold him? What I mean by that is did he become a cuckold the 1st time she fucked her new guy(or any other guy for that matter). Or does she have to tell him that she is fucking another guy or guys before he becomes a cuckold? Or does he have to actually see her getting fucked? I suppose any of them would make him a cuckold but at what point does the husband get official cuckold status? Another question is the husband did not want any of this to happen but he is still considered a cuckold isn't he? I mean after all his wife was fucking another guy while she was still married to him. Sorry for asking so many questions but is it getting to be quite common for wives to cuckold their husbands whether or not they want to be? It seems to me that there is so much on the internet and even TV shows - at least porn movies - involving the cuckold theme and go black and bigger is better and slutwife, milf, etc that a lot of wives must give into temptation. Or perhaps they have a friend who has already tried it and can't help but steer a slutty friend in the same direction. Thanks for your time.
Kent
Wikipedia defines it as this: A cuckold is a married man whose wife has sex with other men. In current usage it sometimes refers to non-married couples in committed relationships as well, although the traditional meaning is a man whose wife is adulterous.
There are connotations of helplessness and humiliation attributed to the word: implications that the husband lacks the strength to enforce marital fidelity traditionally accorded to a husband as head of his household. He is too weak, too stupid, or too henpecked to leave or divorce her.
Dictionary.com defines it as this: –noun
1. the husband of an unfaithful wife.
–verb (used with object)
2. to make a cuckold of (a husband).
However what I believe you're referring to is where the Wife does not leave the marriage. The husband still provides all the "typical" husband duties, but sex and sexual relations are cut off. Additionally, elements of humiliation, castration, servitude to herself or her lovers, cross dressing, homosexual acts, and submission ranging from moderate to severe can be part of the arraignment. This is entered to willingly by both parties.
As far as it growing in popularity you are correct, but at least to me it mostly seems to be driven by the males desire for this, rather than the females.
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Emily,
My wife gave birth months ago and I have only had about 30 minutes worth of sex on 3 separate times. Recently she has had to train her new boss (whom is an attractive black male) on some sort of software programs at work. I made a comment to her about being careful around him since I did not want him to get to comfortable around her and make a pass at her. I am now wondering if he is hitting that thing? What is a sure sign that he probably is? I need help! thanks. PS I have to masturbate daily because of this.
You have to masturbate daily because you're cut off, or the thought of him hitting it? ;p Is he flirting with her, chances are yes. And chances are she encouraged it, either passively or openly. Giving birth is a huge thing for a woman. Not only do you undergo the obvious changes, but things like your nose gets wider, your ears grow and other things. So after words you can feel unattractive and a little attention goes a long way. Now, as far as a sure sign, I'm not sure there are any. If she wants to get some on the side and hide it, she probably can. I suppose I'd look for the usual, long hours at work, lame excuses why she isn't spending more time with you, distance in communication, and others. Good Luck!
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And as a final word, yes I've been away for awhile. I now am finished with school and can spend a little more time here. I also want to thank Mojo for being patient, and the fabulous job he did on the site. All of you really should join up and support it. It's well worth it.
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